I will flat out tell you I am a woman in my early twenties, so I am definitely not a marriage expert by any means! With that being said, I am surprised by how many of my friends and acquaintances have gotten married at such a young age (18-23). When I see this happen, I am usually wondering if they have given themselves the chance to live out their dreams before entering marriage or will they be the same people in two years? Consequently most of these married couples have children to take care of, and their children are but babies. I have changed so much throughout the course of my life; I am not the person I was when I was 16, 18 or even 21 for that matter. I am certainly different now. For me, growing up in a dysfunctional home, I’ve always been very calculative when it comes to this topic because I don’t want to ever experience divorce. It tears people into shreds. For women who are not married, but have been in long relationships, they know how difficult it becomes after a couple years. You start asking questions like “does this person have the same values as me,” or “is this person going to stop me from being the best that I can be?” Please do not get me wrong, I am not saying it’s bad getting married young. What I am asking is, “Is it healthy to get married before you know exactly who you are?” From the photographs I see on Facebook, many of these couples are going strong, granted it’s only been a few years, but they look happy. I just do not see myself getting married until closer to 30. I guess for some people, they are lucky to find the “one” at a young age, but for others, it’s calculative. I might be the irrational one, but this philosophy works for me. I can see myself being the kind of person to say “Ok, I want to go to India and visit a temple!” I can’t do that when I am married, I have to make sure my husband is okay with that and most likely he won’t want me to go alone (which is reasonable), but will he want to go too? I’d rather just do those things before marriage, so I could spare “him” the burden of dealing with my need for adventure.